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Sheila Botelho is a business strategist guiding visionary leaders to more profit, freedom, and self-trust. With decades of experience in wellness, sales, and transformational coaching, she helps founders grow businesses that generate wealth and impact—without burning out or dimming down.
On this show, Sheila sparks future-focused conversations about growth, leadership, and the shifting landscape of business in an era of rapid change. Her self-trust-centered approach equips founders to align strategy with soul, scale sustainably, and create a legacy of influence and abundance that touches every area of life.
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Who You’re Becoming In 2026 Starts Today | EP 558
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This solo chat is for the woman standing at the edge of a new year with a sense that something has shifted. She’s built success. She knows how to create momentum. And she’s no longer interested in expanding at the cost of her well-being, relationships, or inner steadiness.
In this episode, I explore what preceded your next level. Not goals. Not resolutions. I share patterns I see consistently among high-level women, along with lived insights from client experiences that reveal why expansion often requires recalibration before strategy.
This conversation invites you to orient toward 2026 in a way you may not have in past new years. If you feel the pull toward a truer way of leading, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.
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The beginning of a new year often has a feeling of ambition, wanting to take the lead. But something quieter has to be listened to first. The women I work with are not short on vision or capability. What they're navigating now is how to grow without overextending, how to expand without sacrificing their well-being. In this episode, I want to offer a perspective that helps you orient to who you are becoming through grounded identity and internal clarity that shapes everything that follows. Hi, welcome to the podcast. I'm Sheila Botelho, and I believe true success is built from the inside out. I work with women who have built real businesses, women who know how to create momentum, women who have proven that they make things happen. They're capable, they're intelligent, intuitive, and deeply committed to the work they do. And yet, when we arrive at moments like this, something tender starts to surface. There's pride for what's been built, of course, and gratitude for the growth. But there's also an awareness that the way that things have been done no longer feels fully aligned with who they're becoming. And that awareness is very, very subtle. It doesn't arrive like with fireworks. It shows up as a quiet internal friction, a feeling that certain patterns feel heavier than they used to, and a sense that the tolerance for overextending has dropped. A desire for expansion that's paired with a deep unwillingness to burn out again. This is the place that so many high-achieving women are standing in right now. Identity doesn't announce itself through words, though. It shows up through sensation inside your body and through the way decisions actually feel for you, through what drains you faster than it used to. And also, this can feel surprisingly nourishing because identity is the internal architecture of your leadership and it lives inside of your nervous system. It shapes the thresholds and influences what you engage with and who you quietly step away from and determines how you respond to pressure, how you handle visibility, and how you allow yourself to be supported. I see this clearly in the women that I work with. For instance, one client that I've supported recently had been building her success by being endlessly available. Her clients loved her, her results were strong, her calendar was full, and yet her body was constantly signaling for something different. She felt responsible for everyone's experience, everyone's emotions, everyone's outcomes. She loved her business that much. And as we worked together, what became clear wasn't a need for a new strategy, it was an identity evolution, a shift from being the woman who holds everything together to being the woman who trusts others to rise with her. Another client had just come through a massive growth phase. Revenue had expanded, visibility had increased, and opportunities were flowing her way. And yet, she found herself feeling disconnected from the way she was building and from the life she was building because her internal pacing just had not recalibrated yet. Her identity was still operating at the speed of the version of herself who had to push to be seen. These moments are incredibly common. They're also deeply misunderstood. When identity hasn't caught up to expansion, the system starts to look for relief. And sometimes that shows up as exhaustion. Sometimes it shows up as irritability. And sometimes it may be you're questioning relationships or offers or direction. And this year feels like an invitation into a congruence, a year where the way you lead, decide, and show up reflects who you actually are right now. A year where presence becomes a form of power and where clarity replaces complexity. I believe this is where nervous system aware leadership becomes very essential because you can't override your way into a new identity. You inhabit it by listening, responding, and choosing from a grounded internal place. Self-trust becomes central here. Not the performative kind, the lived kind, the kind that allows you to pause before responding and that lets you choose simplicity without guilt. The kind that recognizes when something feels complete or off. And being the emotional thermostat in your world is actually a strength. Many women have built their success on this capacity. They read rooms, they anticipate needs, they regulate energy around them. And then there comes a point where discernment asks to be layered into this process. Because not everything requires your regulation, and not every moment requires your leadership. Not all of the emotions need to be managed by you, bottom line. This is where identity softens and strengthens at the same time. I noticed this shift in myself recently through a very small but meaningful decision that I made. Years ago, I would have felt the need to explain it, to justify it, and make sure everyone understood. But this time, the decision landed quietly and it felt complete in my body before it was ever even articulated to anyone else. And it was very powerful. That is how identity evolution shows itself. You begin to move from discernment rather than urgency. Things are aligned for you rather than performative. And your self-respect grows. You step away from self-sacrifice. This is the work I do with women inside my private containers and my programs. Not surface level shifts, but recalibration at the level that actually sustains expansion. As you step into this year, I want to offer you three gentle identity cues to help give you a reflection time that you can return to again and again. The first is, what am I no longer entertaining? The second is, what am I naturally moving toward? And the third is, who am I when no one is watching? Those answers reveal more about your leadership than any goal setting exercise ever could. January holds a very unique energy for this kind of work. There's space before momentum builds, and there's room to choose differently before patterns lock in and before things get really busy. So if you feel that quiet recognition that you're stepping into a new way of building and a new way of being as well, trust it. You don't need to rush it. You don't need to define it, and you don't need to explain it. You get to live into it through your choices, through your own pacing, and through the way you care for yourself as you lead. Your identity isn't a single decision, it's a compilation of things. It's something you return to again and again. And today, at the start of a new year, you get to return to it with intention. Thanks for listening. Happy New Year, and I will see you on the next episode.