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The Sheila Botelho Show: Business Strategy and the Inner Work of Leadership
When Someone Else's Success Isn't the Right Fit | EP 623
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A founder built toward eight figures by copying a business model that looked like freedom from the outside. It wasn't. Sheila shares what happened when they finally stopped and asked what they actually wanted this business to give them. Full show notes, transcript, and chapters at sheilabotelho.com/623
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A Seven-Figure Breaking Point
SheilaI want to tell you about a client who built a seven-figure business moving toward eight figures and found themselves wanting to pull the plug. From the outside, it looked like everything was working. From the inside, they were disillusioned and honestly a little ashamed of how they felt. What happened next taught me something about the difference between copying someone's revenue and copying their entire life. I want to talk you through it today. Hi, welcome to the podcast. I'm Sheila Botelho, and I believe true success is built from the inside out. So there's this client that I had a while ago who built a business over several years that most people would call a massive success. Seven figures going toward eight, growing in the right direction, and by every external measure you could name. And they came to me wanting to completely shift how they were doing things.
Building By Copying The Winners
SheilaSo let's go back to where they started because I think this is where so many of us start. Early on, they looked at the people who were doing incredibly well in their space, high-volume digital marketers, creator economy figures, you know, the kind of business owners whose lives looked like total freedom from a distance. And it made sense to want that. It looked like they had the answers that they were looking for. So they built their business toward it. They modeled the architecture, the scale, the systems, the whole engine that made those other businesses run. And on paper, it worked beautifully. Their revenue grew. And if you looked at the numbers alone, you would have said, this is a person who has it figured out. Off camera, though, it looked completely different. They were spending 12 hours a day managing outsourced teams, handling high-friction client tickets, running an intricate sales machine that never stopped needing them. And I want you to really hear when I'm saying that. See, what looked like freedom from the outside for them turned out to be an operations heavy engine that required a constant maintenance person. And all of that maintenance landed on them. At least that's how they had architected it. Now, this is important to think about because this is at the heart of this entire episode. This client didn't start with a mission statement. They started with a number. They said, I want a financially successful business and I want to copy the person who has one. That was their whole plan. And guess what? It worked. They executed it, they built it. It worked in the way they had defined working at the time. But somewhere in the growing, something started to shift for them. They
Success And Misalignment Coexist
Sheiladescribed it to me this way. I had a successful business. It was doing really well. And I found myself wanting to pull the plug. I was disillusioned. And I was almost shaming myself for not wanting this larger business because it was growing in the right direction, I thought. But guess what? I really thought, what was wrong with me? And that question, what is wrong with me, is one of the most common things I hear from people who come to me to work and who are further along than most people will ever get. And yet they still feel like something is off with what they're doing. Notice that, because success and misalignment can live in the same business at the same time. One doesn't cancel the other out. So what I eventually got to share with them was that nothing was wrong with them. And I love to say this, and it's true, because people typically, when they're coming across things that are not in alignment with them, it's not that something's wrong with them, it's that it's just not for them. They simply, in this case, had different values, a different design, and a different tolerance than the people they had modeled themselves after. Those other business owners genuinely love the operation itself. Business was their joy. It was their whole life purpose, the thing they wanted to be doing every single day. And of course, there's nothing wrong with that. But here's the thing they also did. They had a beautiful team that they were delegating to. And my client was trying to be in every part of the business. They wanted something different. They wanted their business to be an extension of who they were, doing what they loved, not the thing that consumed everything else they loved. And yet they let that happen. And there was almost more happening behind the scenes with those other businesses than my client could ever see, of course. They had more support, more financing. Some of them had taken on venture capital. And my client had built theirs alone without lending, carrying the entire operational weight themselves, year after year. And there's almost always more going on behind someone else's business that you can see from where you're standing. I'm sure you understand that when we really break it down. In essence, you're comparing your full behind-the-scenes reality to someone else's highlight reel, and you don't even know it. So they stayed inside that model longer than they wished they had. In fact, right up to the edge of burnout. They didn't have some kind of dramatic collapse or one just single bad day, but it was a slow accumulation, the kind that creeps in over months and years until you almost don't notice how close to the edge you're standing.
The Moment They Could Not Leave
SheilaAnd the moment that finally cracked it open wasn't really the burnout itself. Actually, it was an annual event. One that they had gone to for years with people they loved deeply. It was a personal event. And they realized they couldn't see a way to step away from the business long enough to be at the event. That was the moment. They said, if I can't be present for the things I value most, something has to change. And perhaps you can relate to that. I think about that a lot personally. It's rarely the big obvious warning signs that get our attention. It's usually something smaller and more personal, a tradition, a relationship, a moment you almost miss. That is usually what finally gets loud enough to hear. When they came to me, their first instinct was resistance. Everything looked good on paper. Why would anything need to change? I hear that so often, and I understand it completely. When the numbers are working, questioning the structure underneath them can feel almost irresponsible. But what we found together was that the business model itself wasn't actually the problem. It was the way they were personally operating inside of it. And whether that model matched how they actually wanted to feel while they were building it.
Values, Safety, And The Vision Map
SheilaWe worked through the vision map together, and the clarity came into the legacy portion, looking honestly at what they wanted for their future. There was a real misalignment there between where the business was heading and where they actually wanted to be. And underneath that, we uncovered something even earlier: imprints from business school, from home, tying financial security directly to how large and how profitable a business needed to be in order for them to feel safe. They'd been building from what they were taught to want. And this was the moment they finally let themselves want what they actually wanted instead. So
Pivoting Toward A Company Of One
Sheilathey made the pivot. They tore down the complex high overhead structure and moved towards something closer to a company of one. They started by pulling back and bringing in contractors just to see how the business felt at a smaller scale. They gave themselves permission to experiment before committing to anything permanent. They found their sweet spot there and eventually brought those same contractors on full-time once they knew exactly what size and shape actually fit who they were. And this was not an easy thing for them to do because, of course, they had these people that had been loyal to the business, but they were honest with them that if they didn't make a change, there would not be a business going forward. So fortunately, people understood and they were so well connected in the industry that they were able to find homes for some of these people. And some of the people were like, keep me in mind for whatever you envision next, because they loved working with this person so much. So this client sacrificed some gross revenue for a much higher profit margin, far more peace of mind, and something closer to a 20-hour work week. The business grew more slowly than the original plan called for, but it grew every year after that. And they attracted a completely different kind of client along the way: people who valued health, well-being, and long-term vision as much as they valued it. And also as much as they all valued the immediate profit. It changed the entire culture of the business, built around community and around human qualities instead of volume alone. If this person were listening right now, here's what I would want them to know. They did so much right. Even in the copying phase, they trusted themselves enough to take the idea and actually built it. They created real results. That takes courage, most people never use. Taking action, even in perfect action, in fact, especially in perfect action, is actually the thing to do. And the thing they did most right of all was stepping aside at exactly the moment they needed to, to see that they were betraying their own desires and their own well-being. That's one of the hardest things to do when you've built something large, when a team is relying on you, when everyone around you expects that the growth is going to keep climbing, it can feel almost impossible to change course. Like you'll be letting people down simply by asking a different question. But you know what? If you kept going, things could burn down in a completely different way. Now,
Questions To Ask Before Scaling
Sheilahere is what I want to leave you with. Getting clear on your long-term plan before you scale it will always serve you. And when that clarity doesn't happen before, at the beginning, it can still happen now, at any stage. And it will serve the people on your team and the people you serve as clients just as much as it serves you. So before you just start scaling one more level, thinking I just got to get bigger, bigger's better, growth at all costs. I invite you to ask yourself what you actually want this business to give you, not just what you were taught to want from it. Ask that question because you're the one who has to keep operating this business. You are the one who needs to get up in the morning and keep showing up for it day after day, long after the initial excitement of building it wears off. So make sure it's something that you really want. Thank you for spending this time with me. I'm wishing you a beautiful rest of your week for ways to go deeper on these things in your own life and business. Go check out the show notes for ways that we can work together. I'll see you on the next episode.